choose kindness and only pick the blacksmith wheel, and dagger, and do mean stuff like knock the trees vs use the picker, etc
I think the mean stuff like knock fruit from the tree, vs picker is only for the Charity achievement, and not a major change in the story. His dialogue barely changes from what he says if you used the picker (other than giving you an extra option to ask what happened to his face), he doesn't figure out it was you who dropped the bees nest on the picnic. It if you are playing compassion route already, it doesn't make him chastise you for making a mistake. Likewise messing up with the Wolves and not getting the Wedzel Patch won't affect the pathing with the brave path either, although she will say 'no patch for you', and finally you an use the sleep leaf instead of giving it to the Hobblepots. If you did the right thing with all of these you get an achievement/trophy.
In addition you also would get the Wolf Patch bonus, and the hypnosis powder which can be used on Pillare. But also giving away the sleep leaf on Pillare might prevent you from getting the color change potion as well, which would make the final Duel Wits game a tad harder, and probably force you to have to use the cheat method to make your chances 50/50